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What relationships can do to you

Watching Grey’s Anatomy is making me a wreck. I seriously cry like a baby when watching some of the episodes. But I also think about a lot of the quotes that I hear in there.

In season 5, Dr. Callie Torres is talking about her past relationships and what they did to her as a person:

I used to walk around tall at the hospital floor. Then came George and he took off an inch. Erica Hahn shaved off a few more. The humiliation made me shorter. I am scared of another personal failure, because it would cut me off at the knees.

This put me to thinking about my past relationships. A lot of them also cut off a few inches.

My dating past

My first serious relationship I was 16 and my boyfriend 21. His mother did not approve of the relationship (I can’t really blame her). We split up after a year, also because of the pressure of the family and the secrecy. After that, I got together with a guy who lived at the other side of the country. After a year I found out he used every opportunity he got to cheat on me. Bam, an inch. A few years later I was with someone who constantly put me down. The mental damage here was bad, my self esteem low. Bam, another inch. and then came Redlef, who definitely took off 2 inches. I have never felt so small in my life.

What my current relationship did to me

Fast forward to today: I am standing taller than ever, walking around proudly and self-confident. I have a man that loves me, supports me and is there to catch me when I fall. Because that is what love does: it builds you up. Don’t be afraid to lose an inch again. Take the leap of faith. You might grow taller than you ever were.

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